Sexual Shaming

People get bent out of shape about "slut shaming." But then they don't say anything about "prostitute shaming." Even though, in essence, it's the same thing. Prostitutes sleep with tons of random people and charge money for it. People who engage in casual sex and sleep with lots and lots of people, are doing the same thing, only not charging for it, meaning they won't have money for their herpes treatment (I'll go into STDs later). So why is it okay to insult prostitutes, but not okay to insult people who sleep with lots of people, ie: sluts? I honestly don't understand how this is fair. If you're going to get bent out of shape about slut shaming, then you shouldn't be insulting prostitutes, because sleeping around is basically the same thing.

Another thing is this: Why is slut shaming bad, but as soon as someone throws an insult at a virgin or someone who prefers monogamy over sleeping around, it's fine? How hypocritical. Someone who is a virgin shouldn't be insulted. (In this day and age, they should be praised, I feel). And someone who doesn't like sleeping around and only wants to sleep with one person, whom they love, shouldn't be insulted either. How about this: no one insults anyone based on sexual preferences. Simple as that.

I'm sorry I don't like letting a ton of people see me naked; I'm sorry I don't like the idea of being in an intimate situation with someone I barely know or don't love. I don't think it's fair to get bent out of shape about me insulting your life style, and then go right back and insult mine. Opinions are different. It's immature and rude to insult someone because they don't share your opinion. Intelligent people have intelligent debates about issues such as this; they don't go around calling people prudes because they don't "put out" to everyone.

In my opinion, monogamy is the way to go. Not only are you stopping the spread of STDs by not sharing them with a ton of people, but you're also creating a deeper, more meaningful relationship with someone. Sex should be about love. Yes, sure, sex is fun to some people, but it's even better when you're sharing it with someone you're in love with. It's deeper, more emotional, and better. When you're just sleeping around with whoever will screw you, they don't know what you like. So chances are, your casual sex is going to suck anyways.

And about STDs; in casual situations, a lot of the time, people are either under influence of drugs or are drunk, and when in those situations, you're not in your right mind, meaning you'll be more likely to not engage in safe sex, meaning if your temporary partner has a disease, the odds are against you in terms of disease contractions.
Then there's the issue of pregnancy. When you don't engage in safe sex, there's the change of pregnancy. And while yes, single parenting is growing more and more common now, do you really want to explain to your child when they're older that you don't actually know their father and that you were just having drunk sex with some random person you never saw again? How do you think that's going to make your child feel? Besides, even though my parents are divorcing now and had a bad marriage, I'm still glad I had both of them around. My dad did things for me that my mom couldn't, and vice versa.
And frankly, I'd rather not get pregnant by some random guy and then have to explain to my family and child what happened. Talk about shame.

I'm all for monogamy. It's safer, it's more meaningful, and easier to explain to your children.
BUT, it's not fair to insult someone profusely due to their sexual decisions. It's not your life, so let them do what they want. By all means, have an intelligent conversation about it, but try your hardest to not insult them. Let them deal with their decisions in their way. It's not your life.

No one likes being insulted, so it's not fair to insult one group of people and not expect them to insult you back. It's so much easier to just be nice about things. You don't have to agree with their life choices, but you're also not being forced to partake in their decisions. Remember that saying you were taught a kid most likely? If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

That rings true 100% of the time. Being nice is just so much easier than being mean, and it makes everyone feel better.

I don't agree with sleeping around or prostitution, but I'm not going to around insulting people because they don't partake in monogamy. That's unfair, mean, and proves immaturity.